The title of this post is misleading. I don’t have the answer to where to draw the line between humility and knowing your worth. I do know my value is in God who calls me to be humble.
God loves humility. Jesus, the one guy ever who actually could back up anything he wanted to boast about, was (and is) the picture of humility.
Being humble means not needing to be right. See this helpful chart:
Ok, so you’ve decide to try Christ-like humbleness so then you’re arguing with your significant other and you yield to them, you don’t need to be right. Whew! You’re doing great at this!
Then you yield again and again and again and again. So when do you stop being understanding and humble? When do you recognize that they are treating you badly and leave? (Note: this isn’t for married people. Marriage is permanent.) What’s the humble way to tell someone you’ve had enough of their crap and you know God wouldn’t want his beautiful son or daughter to be treated like this?
Humility and understanding go hand in hand. You’re trying to show love to someone who isn’t making you want to show them love. You consider their circumstance and recognize how it could be making them act so infuriating. You show them understanding because of it. But when does that become making excuses for them? Is it, in fact, biblical to make excuses for someone? Is our culture so far gone that we tell people not to make excuses for something/someone when the Bible actually directs us to do exactly that?
I used to think that people are inherently good. I know better now. Now I think people are inherently sinful but desire to be good until society taught them not to fight their sinful nature. Maybe I’m still naive (and let’s please not get into a nature vs. nurture debate. We’ll be here for hours). I say this because we can use reasoning to be understanding of every single bad behavior. I was recently reading about people who marry incarcerated felons. Imagine the understanding that takes! Are these people crazy or Christ-like?
The Bible says “be bold” (Ephesians 3:12, 2 Corinthians 3:12, Acts 28:3, Proverbs 28:1, Acts 4:13, Acts 4: 29-31, 2 Timothy 1:6-7, Ephesians 6:19, and more) but boldness in our society is characterized by standing up for what you believe in and humility makes taking a stand rather difficult.
I realize there are more questions than answers in this post (actually there’s no answers) and for that I am more sorry than you can possibly know. You see, I wish I had those answers but I don’t. I’ve tried but for the life of me I can’t find them in the Bible either. I’ve heard many pastors and speakers give their take on the subject but, unfortunately, the takes on this matter contradict each other regularly.
My guess is that all we can do is open our Bibles but I welcome your guess too…