The internet is having a moment. In fact, everyone is having a moment. As a marketing professional, I am especially attuned to notice that brands are having a moment as well. Everyone is jumping on the rainbow train, eager to show their support for the Supreme Courts ruling that marriage is for all adults.
It weirds me out to see Christians freaking out about how wrong this is. I read the Bible. There’s not much in there about gay people. It’s a pretty small topic. There is much in there about putting others before yourself and not judging something you don’t understand.
I don’t understand gay people. Somewhere along the line, after I had found out what gay meant, I asked myself if I was attracted to the same sex and I wasn’t. So I’ve never been gay and don’t know what it’s like and don’t understand it. I really want to ask some questions of people who identify as gay now that it’s come to the front of everyone’s attention but I don’t because it might get misconstrued as hate and that’s a can of worms I don’t want to open up with the particularly vocal gays rights advocates. Do gay people feel about the opposite gender the way I feel about girls? Or are all gay people attracted to both genders? What do gay people think of the psychological need of a child to have both a father figure and a mother figure? I am wondering these things in earnest.
Anyways, I don’t know what it’s like to be gay but I do know what it’s like to be a girl and I know how it feels to read parts of the Bible that, frankly, suck for me as a girl. I know how it feels to read that I can’t talk in church or I can’t teach men. I know how it feels to read that I can’t pray without a head covering. (this is in Corinthians right near the love verses. I wrote about this here and here)
I also know how it feels to see the gifts God has given me, the beautiful gifts, and struggle to utilize them for God’s glory because I’m a girl. I know what it’s like to have a brain that like numbers and strategy and economics and then have what I’m trying to do with my skills dismissed because my significant other thought I should follow him because I’m the girl. Or that I should do the cooking, the dishes, the cleaning, the laundry because I’m the girl.
This is all to say, I know it sucks to feel like you can’t do something you want to just because of who you are.
I’m not on board or off board the gay train. I don’t know about how it feels. I’ll never know, save for what I’m told, whether it’s a choice or you’re born that way. I never will. Anyone who isn’t gay and says they know you’re born that way is lying. They just really believe you’re born that way.
Read the Bible and then read it more. So many people condemning Christians for being anti-gay are getting their knowledge of what’s actually in the Bible secondhand. This is an opportunity to encourage people to read it themselves. Read it and interpret it for yourself and then share your interpretation. Maybe yours will shed light on why ours is wrong. Do not forget to ask the Holy Spirit for help in interpreting what you are reading.
20 Above all, you must understand that no prophecy of Scripture came about by the prophet’s own interpretation of things. 21 For prophecy never had its origin in the human will, but prophets, though human, spoke from God as they were carried along by the Holy Spirit. 2 Peter 1: 20-21
The Bible warns repeatedly about false prophets. I really don’t want to believe some of my favorite spiritual leaders are false prophets. I don’t think anyone does. So it’s really hard to think that maybe they are wrong about gay people. It’s hard but not impossible. But, in order to even consider a Biblical interpretation different from the one that is so ingrained in me, we really need the people championing that interpretation to come back to church, to join the community, to join the discussion, and to walk through life hand in hand with a community of believers.
Beloved, do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits to see whether they are from God, for many false prophets have gone out into the world. 1 John 4:1
A man can’t tell me how to feel when I read the verses that marginalize women. I can tell everyone how it makes me feel and I believe we learn a lot from that. I want to invite anyone who identifies gay to read the New Testament and then tell me how it makes them feel. And I want them to feel free to tell me honestly.
Because I’ll tell you, one of the best days in my own personal walk and relationship with God is when I finally admitted to him .. “God, this stuff about women in here.. I’m PISSED OFF you let this in here!”
Side note: I really don’t understand the wand maker story line in Harry Potter. Greyback or someone and there was some guy perching on a windowsill? How did Ollivander fit into that whole thing? It seems like an important part of the story but it’s always been lost on me. Somehow Dumbledore’s brother comes in somewhere. Anyways, it seems to me when we are freaking out about the few gay verses in the Bible, it would be like me obsessing over the part of Harry Potter that I don’t understand. But if I did that, I would miss out on the second greatest story of all time (the Bible is the first). Sorry, I had to include this because, as many of you know, I think about Harry Potter way too much.